Oh Phoenix, I'm crying right along with you - at this news, at your RL situation and at the agony this must have added to your already hefty burden. This place IS your baby and I can only imagine how hard it is for you to do this, but you are demonstrating the good sense, generous heart and communal spirit that is the hallmark of "your baby."
You absolutely must put your RL first now, and I don't know if there is enough karmic energy in this universe to cover all the good karma MLA members want to send your way. But I hope there is, because you deserve it. Please know that we are all here for you every day, even though you can't be with us. I'm not very religious, but I've just put a reminder in my calendar to send you some positive thoughts and energy every morning. I don't presume to know what you're going through, but I do know how hard letting go (in your case, MLA) can be and I hope you feel free now to concentrate on your health and your time left with your mum. She has a very special daughter, and I'm sure you are a comfort and a huge help to her.
As for MLA, you know how special I think this place is. And ALL credit for that goes to you - for taking the risk, for picking THE BEST mod team and for creating an environment for us that is totally devoid of any of this:

. And that, my dear, is truly an incredible feat in this fandom. I still marvel at how drama-free this place is.
I am so glad you are not saying goodbye "forever." I hope you drop by occasionally (maybe for some strength and laughs) and I
truly hope when life gets a little easier for you, you will come back as an admin, mod or member and spend more time with us again. It won't be the same without you. After all, who is going to grace our threads with such lovely Mick/Cora banners? And I thank you so much for leaving your fic, because I haven't had a chance to really dive into the fic yet, so I'm still looking forward to reading your stuff. And much good luck to you on pursuing writing as a profession.
I don't know what else to say to convey how much you mean to us and how much you will be missed (even though we know we are in good hands with Alle and the mods), so I will simply give you a 21-smiley salute... each one conveying the specialness of Phoenix:
And finally, many, many of these to you from us:

and mostly
Take care, Phee, and until we meet again....